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Did you ask what a 13letter phrase for engagement was?
Did your GPS ask to see it?
Did you jump into his arms when it thundered and he promised he was there, he'd always be there?
Did he try to learn sign language for you?

Did I mention I fucking HATE jewelry store commercials????

Congrats Nats!

Congrats Nat!! As one of the (I assume) few here to actually have met you and Mr. You, I can definitely say you two are perfect for each other! And about damn time he comes around to realize it! :)

Congratulations, Natalie! So is that the best Christmas gift you've ever received? ;-)

Congrats, Nat! Hugs and boob gropes from me to you.

I bet you're pregnant.

Best wishes now & always, Nat! Congratulations!!

Congrats! Enjoy the wedding planning. Future - Mrs. Bark and I sure are. LOL.

I don't think I'd ever get married again. I'd just bang Kah relentlessly and we'd trade cooking meals.

Jakester wrote:

I don't think I'd ever get married again. I'd just bang Kah relentlessly and we'd trade cooking meals.

Jesus man, give that poor girl a break already!!

She can do better than you anway.

*inserts mad simily here*

omicron wrote:

Did you ask what a 13letter phrase for engagement was?

Did your GPS ask to see it?

Did you jump into his arms when it thundered and he promised he was there, he'd always be there?

Did he try to learn sign language for you?Did I mention I fucking HATE jewelry store commercials????

Then you'd hate the Kay Jewelers billboard I saw a few years ago: Picture of a diamond ring, and underneath, it said "the key to the really expensive lingerie drawer." o_O

Congrats girl!

Many, many congratulations! :)

Those commercials are so silly. And since we don't have one of those stores in Columbia, SC, no, he did not go to Jared. Which, oddly enough, because of another irritating ad campaign, makes me think all that jewelry was purchased at Subway.

The wedding planning is sure to overwhelm me. I am typically a procrastinator. My mom and sister started planning things about 20 minutes after the announcement so I'm leaning on them to keep me on track.

Adam, I think you are the only one on here who met both of us. Drop down this way again and we can drink beer again.

Not knocked up, however, my mom told me last Christmas if I didn't get a ring to just go ahead and have already because she and Dad are getting older and want more grandchicklets.

Jake, you can come to the wedding if you promise to only harrass one bridesmaid at a time.

!!! :)

Will Kah be a bridesmaid? Can I be the really naughty thing you do the night before your wedding?

Christ, six and a half years? Abought goddamn time!

Congrats!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Ur2er-STls

Diamonds, she'll pretty much have to

I know I'm late but congradulations Natalie. He's one lucky hombre.

Sweeeeeeet!

Congrats, Natalie!

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Okay, so here's a little update that I thought you guys would find interesting.

All is well with the planning, still have to finalize a few things, but my "team" of bridesmaids seem to understand that I just want options put in front of me and then I say Yes or No to what they present. It's what I think being an emporer would be like. Very cool.

Here's what's up for discusion:

So, I grew up in a church my entire life with a little hiatus I just came back from where I've just started going back. BF has been coming with and while he didn't have the church upbringing I did, he seems to be enjoying it and agreed with me that having a semi-traditional church wedding would be appropriate and a good way to start out the "official" next chapter of our lives together. Part of getting married in my church (and many others, as I've learned) is going through a pre-marriage counseling program with the minister (Think "License to Wed" minus Robin Williams). Monday was our first visit. To give you a little background, I have asked a previous pastor to perform the ceremony but she lives and works about an hour away so we thought it would be fine to go through this counseling with the current pastor at my church. In our denomination there were some formalities to go through to get "permission" for the former pastor to do the ceremony but all was okay'd and we're on target. We don't have anything against the current guy, but he is not as familiar with me and he's an older guy, very "ole time religion" type, and the former minister is much more contemporary and more aligned with who we are. Plus, I know her and she's awesome.

Here was our experience with the current pastor at our first counseling session:
1) Weirded us out with a lot of conversation about Vietnam and his experience there. Even went so far as to comment that he saw bodies stacked liked cord-wood.
2) sort of derided me for not completing my degree yet even though I only have a couple of classes yet and don't see how that has anything to do with marriage.
3) even though he knows and agreed to let the former pastor perform the ceremony, he sort of invited himself into it by suggesting he read the vows to my fiance. (what????)
4) asked us whether his sermons were good/did we get anything from them (are you surveying us or counseling us?)
5) basically tried to recruit me for other jobs in the church and even though I am already involved in choir pushed a little for me to teach a Sunday School class or something.
and finally, what really bothered us 6)
He gave us both a 5 page "inventory" we are to fill out and bring back in two weeks that asked a LOT of very personal, intimate questions.
Examples are: Have you ever had a venereal disease?
How did your mother's menopause affect you?
What was your parents' attitude toward sex?
Were you popular in high school?
Have you ever had an abortion?
Where do you work and what is your annual income?
Have you ever used drugs? Which ones and explain when and how?
Have you ever been treated by a psychiatrist? When and why?

While my BF and I know all the answers to these questions about each other, we feel like it was pretty invasive for a minister to not only ask about this but to request it on a form he could keep on file for some reason.

We've discussed it and decided that we won't be filling it out but have talked about the questions and will let him know that we didn't feel comfortable disclosing that information on paper, but would rather discuss with him how effective it was as a tool for us to prepare for getting married.

I thought it was interesting and I wondered what you guys thought about it.

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"How did your mother's menopause affect you?" Wha?!
I can see how the answers to some of those questions would be good for your spouse-to-be to know, but to write them down and keep them on file is a bit odd. Also, yes, the volunteering thing is also rather pushy.

I don't know that there's a diplomatic way to uninvite him from the wedding, though. By doing this, he's involved, and I think it's protocol for him to be there, whether he's doing the ceremony or not; and given that he's the pastor of the church, I'm not sure that it wouldn't be "rude" to not involve him in some way.